In this 4th step to finding your H-factor we learn that showing a random, yet practical act of kindness will lead us another step towards happiness. Remember when a coworker bought you coffee and surprised you at work? What about when you were driving the kids to school and someone let you have the closer parking spot because you were running a few minutes late? How about the time your car was in the shop and a friend gave you a ride? Believe it or not, but this little and random acts of kindness go a long way. The great part about this is that it’s not a grand gesture, but something small and attainable.
Here is a quote by William J.H. Boetcker that really inspired me:
“Your greatness is measured by your kindness; your education and intellect by your modesty; your ignorance is betrayed by your suspicions and prejudices, and your real caliber is measured by the consideration and tolerance you have for others”.
When a friend, loved one, coworker, or even a stranger show us an act of kindness it usually brightens our day because it means that they went out of their way to think about us in some way. Here’s the kicker, after we receive an act of kindness we will be more likely to also share an act of kindness. Basically we are passing on our happiness to the next person. Even when are in a bad mood it can cheer you up, so think about when others are in a bad mood and how your random act of kindness can help someone.
You are probably wondering what some of these random acts of kindness can be so here are a few ways you can brighten someone’s day:
- Be Kind. Kindness is infectious, once you give or do something for someone they will be more likely to pass along that kindness.
- Think Thoughtfulness. Try focusing on the other person’s needs instead of your own sometimes. For example, if you are at the grocery store and heading to the checkout line at the same time as another person let them go in front of you.
- Manners. It sounds kind of silly, but sometimes we forget to use our manners, so even when you are in a rush try to say “please” and “thank you” it really does go along way.
- Random Compliments. Who doesn’t love a compliment? Next time you are waiting at the airport or in the elevator with another person try giving them a compliment about a certain thing you noticed about them. This way it is not awkward and maybe you have a great conversation with that person that could lead to more.
TAKE A MOMENT TO REMEMBER THE LAST TIME SOMEONE GAVE YOU A RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS. DO YOU REMEMBER HOW IT MADE YOU FEEL? DID YOU SPREAD THAT HAPPINESS TO SOMEONE ELSE? STARTING TOMORROW TRY TO DO AT LEAST ONE RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS FOR ONE PERSON AND MAYBE EVENTUALLY IT WILL LEAD TO MORE AND BECOME A HABIT. IF YOU DON’T SEE A SMILE ON THE FACE OF THE PERSON IN FRONT OF YOU, GIVE THEM YOURS.