By Lisa Cypers Kamen, Harvesting Happiness


Sitting in court one day I was amazed at the myriad of reasons people go before a judge. From minor offenses to major life events, the sheer amount of drama found in today’s legal system is staggering.  From clerks, to bailiffs, to attorneys and their clients, everyone was navigating the legal system.


Was it frustrating? Yes.  Was it time consuming? Yes. Was there anyone in this room getting anything out of the system? Yes and No.  It got me thinking about systems and how do we sustain our level of happiness while going through a process that is largely beyond our control.

Do we throw up our hands? Do we offer up our faith? Do we simply go with the flow best we can?


All of the above.  In times when life feels beyond our control relaxing into the flow of the universe is something we can all do. This doesn’t mean we lay down your rights. This doesn’t mean we accept injustice. Nor does it mean we roll over in submission to defeat.  It does mean however that we recognize what we can change and what we cannot.  How we choose to respond to the situation is always our choice.


Do I yell at the clerk? Do I choose to sit quietly and wait my turn. Interestingly enough, while watching everyone herd through the courthouse through metal detectors in a long line in the hot sun I was surprised at the people who fought the tide and those who flowed with the tide.  We were all in the same stream. We must all pass through the same shoot.  I made my own choice to ride the wave as much as I could and did it change the outcome? No. But the process was less draining, less exhaustive and less impactful of my day.  This by far increased my own level of happiness and satisfaction because I felt in control of myself because you know what? I was, and you can be too. We can’t change most situations in life, but we can choose how we react to them.


Independent filmmaker, author, happiness coach and speaker Lisa Cypers Kamen creates these blogs to entertain, enlighten and educate us as we each undertake our own personal search for happiness. Happiness is an Inside Job. To contact Lisa, email her directly at and check out her websites at ,  , and   and listen to her on or download her show at

Harvesting Happiness with Lisa Cypers Kamen brings to the airwaves a fresh talk radio approach promoting happiness, well-being and global human flourishing by presenting a diverse and proactive collection of the greatest thinkers and doers who have devoted their lives to creating a better world in which to live. She is an expert in creating happiness, finding pathways to happiness, and building a happiness formula in her happiness workshops. If you are looking for how to become a happier person, tune in weekly at Wednesday’s at 12:00 pm to 1:00 pm EST.


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