Right now we are knee deep in winter. For some that can mean long dark cold days and blustery snow covered streets. And for others, winter means temperate sunny days and nippy cool nights. I live in southern California and travel often to Boston and New York, where if I am really lucky, I get snowed in and bundled up by the fire savoring winter treats like hot cocoa and spiced apple cider. I relish the four seasons and enjoy every minute of the rare snow day that storms my way when the world comes to a complete stop. The reward of this precious moment includes mindless and indulgent TV marathons or savoring a magical blizzard stroll.
Have you had a similar experience with your favorite season? I’m sure you are able to describe a day where the weather was just perfect and you thought, “Wow this is absolutely beautiful”. Well that’s how I feel during every fall or winter day. We come to learn that it is the little things that actually matter the most sometimes. This is my little joy and I turned it into a moment that will last forever and ultimately brings me many small moments of happiness and now I would like to show you how to do exactly that!
“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
Learning to savor the moment means we actually have to stop, look, listen and pay attention to what is going on. The precise pause is the instant we are striving to capture. And when we do, it means we are living in the present moment and it is truly a gift.
Remember that these are already little joys, so it is something that is bringing happiness to us; however, in this step to finding your H-factor we are trying to maintain the happiness that is brought to us by these little joys. Living in the moment also plays into the other steps as well as this one because it is imperative that we allow ourselves to be completely consumed by the environment in which we are feeling positive and happy. The feeling of living in the moment cannot be described because it simply just has to be experienced by that person to see exactly what I mean.
Almost everyone experience a little joy once and awhile and lives in the moment, but instead of leaving that moment to rest as soon as you leave or forgetting the little joy, start thinking of how you can replicate that into lasting happiness. Here are a few ways to help you get started:
- Relish the Ordinary. Instead of rushing through every moment start taking the time to see the beauty and enjoy it such as a meal, your daily commute to work, a person’s smile, or a glass of wine at the long of a long day.
- Transport Your Mind. Just as you did as a child, use your imagination to take you to a place of utter happiness. This is useful for when you are in a place where you can’t find joy in the present moment
- Enjoy Little Joys With Others. Experiencing living in the moment and little joys with others can make you and the other person happy, which is twice the amount of happy people! Some activities to do with your friends: go for a ride through the bike trail, try a new flavor of coffee at your favorite café, or take your dogs for a play-date at the park.
START TAKING PICTURES OF THE ACTIVITIES THAT BRING YOU LITTLE JOYS, WHETHER IT IS WITH FRIENDS OR NOT, AND MAKE A COLLAGE OR PHOTO ALBUM. YOU CAN HANG THIS UP OR KEEP IT AROUND THE HOUSE. THIS WILL BE A GOOD REMINDER OF THE LITTLE JOYS THAT KEEP YOU HAPPY THROUGHOUT THE DAY.