5 Ways You Can Reframe & Transform any Challenge to Create a Happy Ending
When our emotional balance is significantly disrupted it can be traumatic. At times, it may even seem like our world’s been flipped upside down and there’s no chance it’ll ever be right again. Relationships ending, the death of someone we care about, overcoming an addiction, or even being let go of a job all have the potential to really rattle us—to disrupt us. When this happens, it is easy to wonder, “Why me?” and let frustration take over. We begin to internalize all this anger and negativity, turning into an angry emoji on steroids.
Eventually, times moves on and we realize we’re ready to reclaim our lost happiness.
We’ve missed it and need it. The recovery process of whatever happened has begun. This is a powerful time because as we breathe in and give ourselves permission to pick up on life again. We’re ready to reframe the picture and transition into what comes next.
Here are 5 ways to help you transform any challenge to create a happy ending:
1. When you forgive, you give yourself a clean emotional slate.
- Forgive another person
- Forgive yourself
- Forgive that other person and yourself
2. Acknowledge your challenge and commit to reframing it with glue from the lessons you’ve learned.
Take the time to give a thoughtful analysis of where you were, what’s happened, and where you want to go. Ask yourself questions about why you can’t move on. Is it insecurity? Does your behavior happen over and over? Have you put your wellbeing aside to the point where you remained in your challenge, instead of solving it and moving on? Take some paper and write these thoughts down so you can more easily see your behaviors and recognize possible solutions.
In highly stressful challenges, people can actually experience Post-Traumatic Growth, where they not only move past what was wrong, but on to something better.
3. Use small goals to make big steps forward.
Growth has to be gauged. Remember when you were little, and you’d stand at that same spot on a wall every year, waiting to see how much you’ve grown? It might have been a quarter of an inch, but it was so exciting! Goals for growth should be based on ability to go through a day without digressing to the challenge, beginning to recognize that things are changing and your days are happier than not. You should also be mindful of how you respond differently to new challenges and situations in your life. If this doesn’t happen quickly, it doesn’t, and that is okay.
Did you know that it takes a bamboo seed over four years to sprout through the ground? When it finally does, it grows sixty-to-eighty-feet in a single year!
4. Show faith in yourself and your abilities.
Meditation, exercise, and mindfulness are all incredible resources at everyone’s disposal to help them grow a healthier mind and body. This can cement in the faith that you need to persevere in everything you set out to do.
Begin to accept that there is no challenge in this world that is so big that you cannot scale it.
5. Set aside time for reevaluation of your transformation goals.
You’ve set goals and applied yourself to reframing and transforming from your challenge. Find a reasonable amount of time to re-evaluate your progress. Unlike what many people say, a habit can take much longer than twenty-one days to change. So, if you are overcoming challenges that have been built up over the years, be patient. If you are conquering something relatively new it might be mended sooner.
No matter what, you are moving toward happiness, and that is something to smile about.
When we get caught up in the trauma of life’s events losing sight of our amazing power of transformation to guide us can happen. In time, you’ll reconnect with it and this is when you are susceptible to learning great lessons that make you stronger as a person, and also a wiser soul.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Lisa Cypers Kamen is a lifestyle management consultant who explores the art and science of happiness in her work as a speaker, author, and happiness expert. Through her globally syndicated positive psychology podcast, books, media appearances, and documentary film, Kamen has impacted millions of people around the world.