8 Truths About Having Joyful Experiences
The holidays are all about it. But what is joy exactly? And how do you know if you’re having joyful experiences?
It’s easy to drift off into thoughts about adventures and desires . . . and smile. Right? But where things get challenging is when we look at the moment we’re in and have the realization that the present moment is the one only that really counts.
Experience joy in the present. And don’t attach it to dreams of the future and thoughts of the past. Makes sense. But it’s easier said than done. For most people, finding joy on a daily basis is difficult.
Here are 8 truths to help you have joyful experiences and enhance your overall well-being this holiday season.
1. You have to be a guru for your greater good.
What makes you feel inspired and excited? It’s important to invest your time in better understanding your behaviors and mannerisms. There’s no other way to learn what you respond to and how certain things impact you.
By doing this, you’re emotionally prepared for those unexpected moments and better equipped to use your naturally-driven joy as a defense against the junk that may come your way.
2. You can still experience joy during tough times.
It’s important not to attach your joy to tough times in your life. You can be struggling with finances and still find joy in many simple – and free – things. And if you have a troubling relationship, you can still recognize that there are joyful experiences to be had.
Your relationships don’t determine your only identity (even if it’s your spouse). Within you, there’s joy waiting to be recognized. Joyful experiences are everywhere. It’s not an exclusive club. Happiness is for everyone to enjoy.
3. You have to control what you can and gracefully navigate the rest.
It’s good to have a plan in case something happens, but when you obsess about life’s “what ifs” you’re going to grow so distracted that you drop your joy along the way.
Why spend time worrying today about tomorrow’s unknowns, which are likely exaggerated in your mind? Worry and joy are like oil and water—they just don’t mix.
4. You have to re-examine your pursuit of happiness.
Indulgent and excessive thoughts are not necessarily better. If you’re a fan of getting nice things, you’re not alone. The one problem with nice things is that they often come with responsibilities. Luxury cars and big homes come with big bills.
And even little things, like big collections of knick-knacks you just “had to have,” come with the responsibility of picking each little one up to wipe off the dust. These types of commitments can end up making what we thought we wanted less exciting.
Stop and think before the next time your thoughts veer toward indulgent and excessive. Ask yourself why you really want something and what value it will bring to your life? What’s its joy factor?
5. People and activities that foster joyful experiences make them a lot easier to have.
The world is your playground, regardless of what your physical abilities are. Seek out the activities and people that bring you joy, and cease these moments. You can do this best by engaging in activities and not being the bystander watching the parade go by, or viewing the action through the camera of your smartphone.
6. Your joy is yours to seek.
If you haven’t taken a moment to look at yourself in the mirror recently, go do so right now. What do you see? Really see? You’re looking at the person responsible for giving your life the joy you desire. This isn’t the type of thing that can be freelanced out or delegated to anyone else.
7. We’re all continuous works in progress.
All of the visual and physical stimulation in the world cannot do as much good for you as making sure you are healthy in your thoughts and emotions.
How you view yourself and talk about your world through your thoughts is linked to how much joy you will experience in life. So, if you want your life to be one of inspiration and joy, start by looking inside for the answers.
8. You have to treat yourself with love, respect, and positivity.
Happiness is an inside job. If you don’t show yourself respect through your thoughts and actions, you’re setting a poor example of how you want others to treat you. This has a significant impact on your personal life and your career.
You can show that you value yourself best by doing things that honor you as a person. It’s a great way to find inner peace, inspire others, and have joyful experiences in the present moment.
Changing the way you view yourself and approach life can be a tough challenge. It takes resilience to stick it out, but with time and practice, this challenge suddenly turns into something better—a joyful attitude toward life, struggles and all.
Happy holidays! May yours be filled with joy . . .
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Lisa Cypers Kamen is a lifestyle management consultant who explores the art and science of happiness in her work as a speaker, author, and happiness expert. Through her globally syndicated positive psychology podcast, books, media appearances, and documentary film, Kamen has impacted millions of people around the world.