5 Tips for a Happier Home
The outside world can be maddening. Once you are home you should be able to look around, breathe in, and share a genuine smile that you’re there. The home doesn’t have to have the same chaos. It should be the place where you can let down your guard, drop your baggage at the door, and go to sleep with a happy heart and mind. This thought shouldn’t be considered utopia, because it is possible for everyone.
Whether you live alone or have a family, happiness in your home is something that you should strive to attain. Sure, there will be problems on occasion – that’s part the human experience, but it’s easier than you think to make those days the exception. Creating happiness in the home is affordable…because it’s free! Yes, feeling happy is quite literally free — and freeing!
Creating happiness in the home is affordable…because it’s free! Yes, feeling happy is quite literally free—and freeing!
These 5 tips are part of an open invitation to happiness in your home:
1. Don’t allow for disruptions.
Uninterrupted time is that time when you are not distracted by emails, dust bunnies under the couch, or the pile of bills in the corner. Your focus is on your relationships with those you interact with once you’re at your home, or positive reflection and inviting feelings if you live alone. The mind is not designed to be constantly bombarded with electronic stimulation from devices and thoughts about what must be done. A person’s needs extend beyond that, and human interaction and self-awareness are necessary for happiness.
Take a break from electronics for a bit tonight and be rewarded with a bit of happiness from a different source.
2. Remember that little rituals bring big smiles.
Rituals aren’t just for holidays; they can be for every day. Most people love rituals because of the happy thoughts and memories they evoke. Being able to find ways to bring this type of feeling into the home more than just during holiday times can be quite magical. What you do at bedtime, the little things you ask during a day, and even making up your own family holidays are excellent ways to create excitement and anticipation for building happy family memories.
Try a daily routine of telling a joke-a-day just to give that moment of laughter, which is a great dose of medicine.
3. Unite in the kitchen to prepare dinner as a family.
Schedules are busy and it’s hard to align them so everyone is together, especially as kids get older and career demands escalate. One of the best ways to create happiness is by gathering in the kitchen to cook a meal together. Everyone can pitch in and talk, which makes it for a great way to stay connected. Even the smallest members of the family can usually do something.
In the end, when families work together they create stronger bonds.
4. Find a good routine that can help keep order in the house.
Constant chaos and disruption are not good foundations for lasting happiness. Happiness shouldn’t be sporadic in life, although it often feels as if it is. Having a steady routine helps greatly, as it gives you the ability to relax more. When everyone knows what’s expected of them at home they are more likely to do it without resistance, whether it’s the morning or evening expectations you set. Nothing says that you cannot make it fun.
Dance while you clean, sing while you shower, and laugh while you make those lunches. If you have to do it, do it with a smile!
5. There is no greater gift than that of a good conversation.
It may seem challenging if there is stress, but talking to the people in your home shouldn’t create challenges. If you want to spend quality time with your family, a great conversation is the way to do it. You’re showing you care by listening and responding back to create a connection that cannot be topped by the distractions of any electronics. You also open up the potential to solve problems before they escalate, have heartfelt conversations that help you to gain better understanding, and strengthen your relationship through conversation. At the root level, when we know our voices are heard we feel important.
When we can sit back and listen to what someone else has to share we are given the gift of connectivity with them, and are likely to get some laughs as a bonus.
A house is made of material, but a home is made of heart and happiness. Everyone should be able to walk into their home and relax, knowing they are accepted for who they are, flaws and all. All these little things create good energy in a home and offer the opportunity for a happier environment for everyone.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Lisa Cypers Kamen is a lifestyle management consultant who explores the art and science of happiness in her work as a speaker, author, and happiness expert. Through her globally syndicated positive psychology podcast, books, media appearances, and documentary film, Kamen has impacted millions of people around the world.